Jack James Reid, LPCC #4195 
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Category: People pleaser

People-Pleasing Starts as Parent-Pleasing

Do you know people-pleasing starts as parent-pleasing? Explore the intricate dynamics and unravel the impact. Read on to learn more!
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Jay Reid July 9, 2023
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Surviving Narcissistic Abuse in Childhood: Leaving One’s Self

A very wise client – Mario* – identified his goal in therapy in our first session to “not care so much what other people think”.…

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Jay Reid June 27, 2019
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Kids taking care of parents: Why The Godfather and Dave Chappelle say parentification is bad

Don Vito Corleone in the Godfather was not a paragon of gender equality. Witness his famous statement: “I spend my life trying not to be…

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Jay Reid June 15, 2018
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Self-sabotage: Overcoming the need to booby trap oneself

Self-sabotage is another term that blames the person doing it. The implication can be that people don’t have the ‘good sense’ to allow themselves success.…

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Jay Reid January 30, 2018
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Why being a “people pleaser” means you are a survivor

by Jay Reid Case illustration: John* was a successful 28-year-old software engineer.  He explained that he lives his life through the eyes of others instead of…

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Jay Reid March 23, 2017
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“Jay is a caring, empathic, and gifted psychotherapist. He is adept at finding a pathway to connecting with all kinds of clients and crafting a safe space for them to explore their challenging issues and concerns. He is flexible and creative in his attempts to form a therapeutic alliance, thus facilitating his clients’ abilities to commit to examining and resolving what is getting in the way of their getting the most out of life. I highly recommend him.”

-Marcia Herman, LCSW, Psychotherapist in Private Practice, San Francisco

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