Therapy to fully be yourself

I work with people who learned they can’t fully be themselves in important relationships.  Some common experiences include:

  • feeling oppressed in relationships
  • putting everyone else’s needs before your own
  • avoiding conflict at all costs.

Therapy with me can help you:

  • understand why you had to hush yourself to make relationships last
  • work through feelings of guilt and fear over what will happen if you do assert yourself
  • find and build relationships with people who like it when you express yourself.

If this type of issue resonates with you, you might consider contacting me for a free 15-minute phone consultation.

I am a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC).



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Therapy can help you move through your anxiety, instead of away from it.



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Did you survive a catastrophic event and find yourself reminded of it all the time? Were you mistreated as a kid?  Therapy can help you put these experiences where they belong:  in your past.


What People are Saying

“Jay is a gifted therapist who is dedicated to his clients’ well-being and growth. I recommend him highly.”

-John Snyder, Psy.D.
Research Director and Clinical Supervisor for the San Francisco Psychotherapy Research Group

“Jay Reid has a special combination of being a deep thinker and also being approachable. It is easy to talk to Jay and I suspect that is one of the best things about him when in the therapy room. In addition to his warmth, I especially respect his insight into the myriad ways that trauma histories impact people. Jay is an excellent psychotherapist.”

-Ginger Rhodes, Ph.D.
Expert psychotherapist to survivors of trauma

“Jay is a gifted psychotherapist. He is able to attune to his clients’ emotional needs which establishes a therapeutic atmosphere of safety. He combines his extensive knowledge of theory with a sense of creativity to customize his approaches to the unique needs of his clients. I regularly refer clients to him and would heartily recommend him to anyone looking for a therapist.”

-Dr. Jane Jordan, Psy.D.,
Psychoanalyst in Private Practice, San Francisco

“Jay is a caring, empathic, and gifted psychotherapist. He is adept at finding a pathway to connecting with all kinds of clients and crafting a safe space for them to explore their challenging issues and concerns. He is flexible and creative in his attempts to form a therapeutic alliance, thus facilitating his clients’ abilities to commit to examining and resolving what is getting in the way of their getting the most out of life. I highly recommend him.”

-Marcia Herman, LCSW,
Psychotherapist in Private Practice, San Francisco

“I know Jay as a friend, colleague and fellow therapist. He is a very warm and caring person who naturally puts others at ease with his humor and humility. What has impressed me most about Jay as a therapist is the level of thoughtfulness he brings to his practice. He wrestles with the tensions inherent in the field of therapy: for example, how can he bring clients both symptom relief, as well as deep and lasting change to the way a person relates to him or herself and others? With a keen intuition and his clients’ best interest as his guide, he navigates these questions with a grace and wisdom beyond his years. Jay is committed to understanding and honing the therapeutic relationship to heal the wounds of relational trauma, so that clients can free themselves to be the authors of their own lives.”

Dr. Lucas Jones, MD, Psychiatrist & Psychotherapist in Oakland, CA

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