Therapy to fully be yourself

I work with people who learned they can’t fully be themselves in life and relationships.  Some common experiences include:

  • working ‘all the time’ to meet others’ expectations
  • feeling extremely guilty when you put yourself first
  • feeling depleted when there’s no task to get done

Therapy with me can help you:

  • understand why you had to hush yourself to make relationships last
  • put yourself first without undue guilt
  • find and build relationships with people who like it when you express yourself.

I provide open, warm, theory and data-driven therapy to help you reach these goals.  Read more about it here.

If this type of issue resonates with you, you might consider contacting me for a free 15-minute phone consultation.

I am a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC) in California and can work with anyone who lives in the state via secure video sessions.




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What People are Saying

Jay is a gifted therapist who is dedicated to his clients’ well-being and growth. I recommend him highly.

-John Snyder, Psy.D.
Psychotherapist in Private Practice, San Francisco

"Jay Reid has a special combination of being a deep thinker and also being approachable.  It is easy to talk to Jay and I suspect that is one of the best things about him when in the therapy room.  In addition to his warmth, I especially respect his insight into the myriad ways that trauma histories impact people.  Jay is an excellent psychotherapist."

-Ginger Rhodes, Ph.D.
Psychotherapist in Private Practice, San Francisco

"Jay is an excellent therapist.  He is compassionate, thoughtful and very well trained.  I know Jay through working alongside him and he has always been consistently brilliant and thoughtful in the approach to his work.  I often refer clients to him and know they will be treated well.  He has an inviting and effective approach to therapy."

-Eric Mill, LMFT
Psychotherapist in Private Practice, San Francisco

Jay is a gifted psychotherapist.  He is able to attune to his clients’ emotional needs which establishes a therapeutic atmosphere of safety.  He combines his extensive knowledge of theory with a sense of creativity to customize his approaches to the unique needs of his clients.  I regularly refer clients to him and would heartily recommend him to anyone looking for a therapist.

-Jane Jordan, Psy.D.,
Psychotherapist in Private Practice, San Francisco

"Jay is down to earth and naturally mixes good humor with heartfelt communication to help you feel at ease and able to talk about anything.  As a colleague of Jay's, I know him to be extremely dedicated to his work.  His approach is thoughtful, warm and caring.  I would recommend Jay without hesitation and believe he will make a great fit for most people looking for a therapist."

-Sasha Lustgarten, LMFT
Psychotherapist in Private Practice, San Francisco

"I've worked with Jay as a colleague and he is a talented therapist whose passion shows through his work.  He's easy-going and humorous but also insightful so that he cuts right to the heart of the matter.  If you're looking for a great therapist, I highly recommend Jay!"

-Janet Lee, LMFT
Psychotherapist in Private Practice, San Francisco

Jay is a caring, empathic, and gifted psychotherapist. He is adept at finding a pathway to connecting with all kinds of clients and crafting a safe space for them to explore their challenging issues and concerns.  He is flexible and creative in his attempts to form a therapeutic alliance, thus facilitating his clients’ abilities to commit to examining and resolving what is getting in the way of their getting the most out of life. I highly recommend him.

-Marcia Herman, LCSW,
Psychotherapist in Private Practice, San Francisco

I know Jay as a friend, colleague and fellow therapist.  He is a very warm and caring person who naturally puts others at ease with his humor and humility.  What has impressed me most about Jay as a therapist is the level of thoughtfulness he brings to his practice.  He wrestles with the tensions inherent in the field of therapy: for example, how can he bring clients both symptom relief, as well as deep and lasting change to the way a person relates to him or herself and others?  With a keen intuition and his clients’ best interest as his guide, he navigates these questions with grace and wisdom.  Jay is committed to understanding and honing the therapeutic relationship to heal the wounds of relational trauma, so that clients can free themselves to be the authors of their own lives.

-Lucas Jones, MD
Psychotherapist & Psychiatrist in Private Practice, Oakland

"Throughout my time in graduate school with Jay, I have firmly believed he is one of the most empathic, warm, and intuitive therapists.  He has a rare combination of practical experience and education that make him a caring and responsive therapist.  Simply put, Jay can and will help."

-Aref Jabbour, Ph.D.
Clinical Psychologist & Researcher, San Francisco

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