How To Overcome Guilt After Leaving a Narcissistic Abuser
The term ‘Narcissistic abuse’ is pretty recognizable that it’s a bad thing. Like no one’s gonna sign up for some form of abuse, right? So,…
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The worst part about being the scapegoat to a narcissistic abuser
I recently saw the comic Bill Burr perform – pre-Omicron days – and he talked about being on mushrooms with his friends. Now if you…
Narcissistic abuse means always having to say you’re sorry
If saying you’re sorry – and rarely hearing it – feels like an all too common part of your experience, then you may have had…
How a narcissistic family gets a child to become the scapegoat
I talk a lot about the process of narcissistic abuse and how a child is often selected and treated as the scapegoat for the narcissistically…
Safety First: The secret to processing narcissistic abuse trauma
I think there’s an idea in the world of recovery from any sort of trauma – narcissistic abuse included – that it requires revisiting the…
The importance of getting away from a narcissistic abuser
One of the most challenging aspects in recovering from narcissistic abuse is the task of putting psychological, emotional, and sometimes physical distance between yourself and…
Going from human ‘doing’ to human ‘being’ for the scapegoat
Do you find your moment to moment experience to hinge on what thought you’re thinking right now? Do you carry around a feeling of inner…
Feeling unreal after narcissistic abuse
One of the grave impacts of being scapegoated by a narcissistic parent is the sense that at your core you are not real. Survivors often…
The Narcissistic Mother or Father: Why they make their children suffer
Today I would like to focus on the psychology of a narcissistic mother or father and why it is so likely to end in abuse…
The Bigger They Are…Why Narcissist’s Target Big People
In my practice, I see a fair amount of people who have been scapegoated in their families of origin. There is a conspicuous bigness that…