Gaining Distance From a Narcissist Is Not Avoidance
Bernard was another fictionalized client who came to therapy in his mid-twenties to find relief from the constant anxiety he experienced in his life. We…
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Feeling Like an Outcast After Being the Narcissist’s Scapegoat
Have you often felt different from everyone else in group settings? Has it seemed like a matter of when, not if others will see you…
Protecting Your Right to Success After Narcissistic Abuse
Have you found yourself in friendships or relationships where you always seemed to be the butt of the joke? Has it seemed impossible to you…
Break Free of the Trauma Bonds in Narcissistic Abuse
Do you fear that if you listen to what you’re unhappy about in a relationship that it will be impossible to be happy with anyone?…
What a Scapegoat Sacrificed Is What Saves After Narcissistic Abuse
Most scapegoat survivors of narcissistic abuse struggle to know they can safely experience themselves as they actually are. They’ve had to don a costume of…
The Scapegoat’s Instinct To Include Others
In my work with individuals who have survived being the scapegoat in their family of origin I am almost always struck by their deep capacity…
Recover Your Status After Narcissistic Abuse
If you have survived narcissistic abuse then you likely felt singled out and treated with unbridled contempt and devaluation. I think that one of the…
Why a Narcissist Deceives the Public and Abuses in Private
Did you have a narcissistic parent who showered people outside the home with deference, respect and charm? Did that same parent have no trouble turning…
Journey of the Scapegoat Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse
Being the scapegoat in a narcissistic family is to be saddled with all of the narcissistic parent’s problems and sent into exile. The scapegoat child…
The Scapegoat’s Mental Frame After Narcissistic Abuse
Someone who had survived narcissistic abuse as the scapegoat in his family of origin recently described what it was like for him to play his…