Below you'll find a list of all posts that have been tagged as “recover from narcissistic abuse”
So you’ve done a ton of work to take stock of how you had to adapt to a narcissistic parent’s abusiveness. Now that you live with a hard-earned awareness of the truth about your parent, you are talking to your longtime friend from high school who asks you how that parent is doing and tells you how much they always …
Does it feel very difficult or even impossible to feel proud of yourself? Does winning feel like a foreign experience to you? Do you find yourself taking on activities in order to disprove that you’re incapable rather than seeking feelings of effectiveness, power or satisfaction? Do you spend a lot of time trying not to be a disappointment to yourself? …
Do you find yourself finding excuses not to do things that you know you enjoy? Does anything that’s not work or school feel like something you shouldn’t be doing? Is it strange to see depictions of people having fun in movies or tv? Like how is it that they are so happy? Is it hard to enjoy activities that don’t …
If saying you’re sorry – and rarely hearing it – feels like an all too common part of your experience, then you may have had to survive narcissistic abuse from a parent or partner. A big part of this abuse may have also been an absence of protection from it by anyone else. When you are selected as the scapegoat …
I think there’s an idea in the world of recovery from any sort of trauma – narcissistic abuse included – that it requires revisiting the feelings that were felt during the abuse and that if those feelings are felt and those experiences re-examined properly then the survivor will be released from it all. Although that may work in some cases, …
One of the most challenging aspects in recovering from narcissistic abuse is the task of putting psychological, emotional, and sometimes physical distance between yourself and your narcissistic abuser. I’ve talked about the guilt and ambivalence that can sometimes emerge when beginning to separate from a narcissistic family or partner. Questions can arise like: “Am I making all this up?”, “Am …
Do you find your moment to moment experience to hinge on what thought you’re thinking right now? Do you carry around a feeling of inner pain, malaise, or otherwise suffering? Do you find that the more you learn about and think about narcissistic abuse, the less free from it you feel? Do you find yourself having to operate more like …
I remember that my favorite school days in elementary school were when we got to do ‘show and tell’. These were days where the teacher would devote 30 minutes for our class to sit in a circle and around so that each student got a turn to show some thing or skill that they wanted to tell the class about. …
