6 keys to deal with a narcissist

6 Keys To Deal With a Narcissist When You Can’t Get Away

I write a lot on this blog about the importance of getting psychological, emotional and physical distance from a narcissistic abuser.  Some viewers of my Youtube Channel have wisely pointed out that sometimes this isn’t possible.  A viewer recently asked: “As an adult, how to handle living with a parent who has strong narcissistic and controlling behaviors, when you have …

scapegoat survivor

The Scapegoat’s Instinct To Include Others

In my work with individuals who have survived being the scapegoat in their family of origin I am almost always struck by their deep capacity to understand, empathize with, and offer acceptance to the experience of other people.  It’s striking because these people exhibit these instincts despite – for the most part – not knowing this treatment firsthand in the …

journey of the scapegoat survivor of narcissistic abuse

Journey of the Scapegoat Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse

Being the scapegoat in a narcissistic family is to be saddled with all of the narcissistic parent’s problems and sent into exile.  The scapegoat child has to keep finding ways to hold onto the narcissistic parent in the face of this rejection.  Usually that’s done by that child believing things about themselves that lets them perceive the narcissistic parent’s abuse …

how to trust after narcissistic abuse

How To Trust After Narcissistic Abuse

Is it hard to believe that others could genuinely care about your feelings? Do you find yourself assuming some sort of ulterior motive to those who seem to be committing an act of kindness? Does it feel like care and affection is something to be earned rather than received?   If you answered yes to any of these questions then …

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How to Talk to Others About a Narcissistic Parent

So you’ve done a ton of work to take stock of how you had to adapt to a narcissistic parent’s abusiveness.  Now that you live with a hard-earned awareness of the truth about your parent, you are talking to your longtime friend from high school who asks you how that parent is doing and tells you how much they always …

narcissist claims the scapegoat is ‘too sensitive'

When a Narcissist Claims the Scapegoat Is ‘Too Sensitive’

Do you fear that if you say what you don’t like in a relationship that your partner will accuse you of being ‘too sensitive? Do you fear that if you say what want more of in a relationship that your partner will accuse you of being ‘too needy’? Do you work really hard to make it seem like nothing bothers …

keys to recover your confidence after narcissistic abuse

3 Keys To Recover Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse

Do you find yourself full of doubt when you try to make a decision? Do you feel more like an impostor than like you belong in your own life? Do you question whether you matter? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you may have had to sacrifice your own self-confidence to survive narcissistic abuse. Although I …