Knowing you’re adequate after narcissistic abuse
Do you notice that you find yourself to be inadequate almost without cause? Do you perceive yourself to be inadequate in comparison to others? Are…
Tag: narcissistic abuse
Going from human ‘doing’ to human ‘being’ for the scapegoat
Do you find your moment to moment experience to hinge on what thought you’re thinking right now? Do you carry around a feeling of inner…
Stop self-punishment to heal from narcissistic abuse as the scapegoat
Do you find yourself feeling low or down after periods of feeling good, proud, or effective? Do bouts come over you where it feels like…
Healing from narcissistic abuse by ‘showing off’
I remember that my favorite school days in elementary school were when we got to do ‘show and tell’. These were days where the teacher…
The pressure to be as the narcissist insists you are
There is a form of psychological abuse committed by narcissistic parents that is hard to identify for a child. It is a psychological process that…
Feeling unreal after narcissistic abuse
One of the grave impacts of being scapegoated by a narcissistic parent is the sense that at your core you are not real. Survivors often…
Surviving A Parent’s Narcissistic Rage: The Value of the Freeze & Submit Responses
This post considers the take-no-prisoners quality of narcissistic rage. A narcissist’s rage can feel – and sometimes be – life-threatening to its recipient. First, narcissistic…
Beware the altruistic narcissist: “Accept my help…or else!”
Narcissism comes in many forms. I suppose the one common denominator is that those around the narcissist either feel ‘less-than’ or face harsh repudiation. I…
The Narcissistic Mother or Father: Why they make their children suffer
Today I would like to focus on the psychology of a narcissistic mother or father and why it is so likely to end in abuse…
The Bigger They Are…Why Narcissist’s Target Big People
In my practice, I see a fair amount of people who have been scapegoated in their families of origin. There is a conspicuous bigness that…