Below you'll find a list of all posts that have been tagged as “life lessons”
Most scapegoat survivors of narcissistic abuse struggle to know they can safely experience themselves as they actually are. They’ve had to don a costume of being abhorrent to the people who they first met in life and tragically learned how dangerous it was to take off that costume. The crux of recovery from being the scapegoat in a family structured …
I write a lot on this blog about the importance of getting psychological, emotional and physical distance from a narcissistic abuser. Some viewers of my Youtube Channel have wisely pointed out that sometimes this isn’t possible. A viewer recently asked: “As an adult, how to handle living with a parent who has strong narcissistic and controlling behaviors, when you have …
Do you notice that you find yourself to be inadequate almost without cause? Do you perceive yourself to be inadequate in comparison to others? Are you surprised or in disbelief when someone praises you for your adequacy in some regard? If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions then you may have had your sense of basic adequacy attacked …
Do you find yourself ready to show appreciation for any act done on your behalf? Is it more anxiety-provoking to be given praise than to go without it? Is it more natural to worry about whether you have done enough for others than to expect something from them? Is it foreign to think about how others have failed to meet …
Scapegoating is a common behavior among narcissistic abusers. They will single out one person in their life and blame them for all of their problems. This can be an ex-partner, a family member, or even a co-worker. The narcissistic abuser will often try to gaslight their victim and make them question their reality. Someone recently articulated this question in the …
