when the scapegoat has to deny their own gifts

When the Scapegoat Has To Deny Their Own Gifts

Being the scapegoat child to a narcissistic parent means feeling very unimportant. You may have even felt like you did not exist to this parent. Psychologically speaking you would not be wrong. It is very painful for a child to attach to a parent who does not see nor care about the child’s existence. The rule is that the parent …

how the scapegoat survivor discounts their strengths

“Yeah but…” How the Scapegoat Survivor Discounts Their Strengths

Do you add caveats to your strengths or accomplishments? Does it seem like you are not as mature, developed or confident as others? Have you perceived a flaw in yourself that makes you inadequate compared to your peer group? These are all ways to discount yourself to yourself. Why would that be necessary? If you were the scapegoat child to …

evacuating the seat of your self: a necessary move for the scapegoat survivor

Evacuating the Seat of Your Self: A Necessary Move for the Scapegoat Survivor

In most families, parents protect and respect their children. This protection and respect does not falter when the child needs something. Nor when the child spontaneously expresses themselves. I like to think of human beings as having a seat in themselves that we can more or less occupy. A big factor that determines whether we can occupy our seat is …

feeling uninteresting to oneself as the scapegoat

Feeling Uninteresting to Oneself as the Scapegoat

Do you experience your ideas to be less captivating than others’ ideas? When you are alone, can you feel flat or lifeless? Do you find other people to be more exciting people than you? If you had a narcissistic parent and you answered yes to these questions then you may feel uninteresting as a person. Scapegoat children to a narcissistic …