Feeling Like an Outcast After Being the Narcissist’s Scapegoat
Have you often felt different from everyone else in group settings? Has it seemed like a matter of when, not if others will see you…
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What a Scapegoat Sacrificed Is What Saves After Narcissistic Abuse
Most scapegoat survivors of narcissistic abuse struggle to know they can safely experience themselves as they actually are. They’ve had to don a costume of…
The Scapegoat’s Instinct To Include Others
In my work with individuals who have survived being the scapegoat in their family of origin I am almost always struck by their deep capacity…
Knowing You’re Adequate After Narcissistic Abuse
Do you notice that you find yourself to be inadequate almost without cause? Do you perceive yourself to be inadequate in comparison to others? Are…
Why a Narcissist Deceives the Public and Abuses in Private
Did you have a narcissistic parent who showered people outside the home with deference, respect and charm? Did that same parent have no trouble turning…
Journey of the Scapegoat Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse
Being the scapegoat in a narcissistic family is to be saddled with all of the narcissistic parent’s problems and sent into exile. The scapegoat child…
The Scapegoat’s Mental Frame After Narcissistic Abuse
Someone who had survived narcissistic abuse as the scapegoat in his family of origin recently described what it was like for him to play his…
How To Trust After Narcissistic Abuse
Is it hard to believe that others could genuinely care about your feelings? Do you find yourself assuming some sort of ulterior motive to those…
How to Talk to Others About a Narcissistic Parent
So you’ve done a ton of work to take stock of how you had to adapt to a narcissistic parent’s abusiveness. Now that you live…
Giving up the Quest To Be Important to the Narcissist
Have you had a parent or partner in your life whose approval you wanted so badly yet always seemed out of reach? Did life feel…