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  • September 27, 2021 at 7:59 pm #8677
    Jay Reid
    Keymaster

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    October 9, 2021 at 9:25 pm #8911
    Amanda
    Participant

    I did this exercise about mapping out your family and I learned a lot. I was aware that the enabler parent was against me too from the other videos I have watched but I didn’t realize the extent of it. I also understand why it’s hard for me to get along with my siblings, as one of them acts very superior and doesn’t respond to texts, etc. and the other sibling is very secretive and doesn’t share anything with me. These videos made me realize my enabler parent was against me. I wouldn’t have even noticed it otherwise. I was able to remember that she led the attack on me during our last meeting and my narcissistic dad didn’t even have to say anything. I wouldn’t have even noticed that if it weren’t for these videos.

    October 12, 2021 at 12:35 am #8932
    MARTIN ETHERIDGE
    Participant

    Hi Amanda. my mother was the narcissist and my father the enabler. Jay could have been describing my family, it is extraordinary how similar all our family systems become. I am sure that it was my father’s behaviour and attitudes that led me to believe I didn’t deserve protection in my life. I think the role that enablers play is just as damaging as the narcissists. To be able to see and accept that is empowering, I believe,

    • This reply was modified 1 week, 5 days ago by MARTIN ETHERIDGE.

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