“Yeah but…” How the Scapegoat Survivor Discounts Their Strengths
Do you add caveats to your strengths or accomplishments? Does it seem like you are not as mature, developed or confident as others? Have you…
Category: Trauma
Feeling Like an Outcast After Being the Narcissist’s Scapegoat
Have you often felt different from everyone else in group settings? Has it seemed like a matter of when, not if others will see you…
Why a Narcissist Deceives the Public and Abuses in Private
Did you have a narcissistic parent who showered people outside the home with deference, respect and charm? Did that same parent have no trouble turning…
The Scapegoat’s Mental Frame After Narcissistic Abuse
Someone who had survived narcissistic abuse as the scapegoat in his family of origin recently described what it was like for him to play his…
How To Overcome Guilt After Leaving a Narcissistic Abuser
The term ‘Narcissistic abuse’ is pretty recognizable that it’s a bad thing. Like no one’s gonna sign up for some form of abuse, right? So,…
Safety First: The secret to processing narcissistic abuse trauma
I think there’s an idea in the world of recovery from any sort of trauma – narcissistic abuse included – that it requires revisiting the…
The pressure to be as the narcissist insists you are
There is a form of psychological abuse committed by narcissistic parents that is hard to identify for a child. It is a psychological process that…
Feeling unreal after narcissistic abuse
One of the grave impacts of being scapegoated by a narcissistic parent is the sense that at your core you are not real. Survivors often…
The Narcissistic Mother or Father: Why they make their children suffer
Today I would like to focus on the psychology of a narcissistic mother or father and why it is so likely to end in abuse…
The Bigger They Are…Why Narcissist’s Target Big People
In my practice, I see a fair amount of people who have been scapegoated in their families of origin. There is a conspicuous bigness that…