Breaking the Myth of the Narcissistic Abuser’s Specialness
Sometimes in the process of recovery from narcissistic abuse it can feel like one is being pulled back towards the narcissistic parent or partner. This…
Category: Psychotherapy
What a Scapegoat Sacrificed Is What Saves After Narcissistic Abuse
Most scapegoat survivors of narcissistic abuse struggle to know they can safely experience themselves as they actually are. They’ve had to don a costume of…
6 Keys To Deal With a Narcissist When You Can’t Get Away
I write a lot on this blog about the importance of getting psychological, emotional and physical distance from a narcissistic abuser. Some viewers of my…
How to overcome the narcissist’s refusal to believe you
Have you found yourself working hard to convince the person who narcissistically abused you that they were wrong to do so? Has the effort to…
Stop self-punishment to heal from narcissistic abuse as the scapegoat
Do you find yourself feeling low or down after periods of feeling good, proud, or effective? Do bouts come over you where it feels like…
Healing from narcissistic abuse by ‘showing off’
I remember that my favorite school days in elementary school were when we got to do ‘show and tell’. These were days where the teacher…
Surviving Narcissistic Abuse in Childhood: Leaving One’s Self
A very wise client – Mario* – identified his goal in therapy in our first session to “not care so much what other people think”.…
‘Good Will Hunting’ through the lens of Control-Mastery Theory
Good Will Hunting is one of my favorite movies. Will’s character is so compelling. By day he hangs out with his hard-living friends. By night…
How early relationships can define reality – for better or worse
“In the end the Party would announce that two and two made five, and you would have to believe it.” – George Orwell 1984 I…
Eagle Fans: Super Bowl Therapy
I moved to the Philadelphia area in sixth grade. Coming from southern California, I had trouble finding friends who loved football as much as me. …