Narcissistic abuse means always having to say you’re sorry
If saying you’re sorry – and rarely hearing it – feels like an all too common part of your experience, then you may have had…
Category: Bad Childhood
How to overcome the narcissist’s refusal to believe you
Have you found yourself working hard to convince the person who narcissistically abused you that they were wrong to do so? Has the effort to…
How a narcissistic family gets a child to become the scapegoat
I talk a lot about the process of narcissistic abuse and how a child is often selected and treated as the scapegoat for the narcissistically…
Safety First: The secret to processing narcissistic abuse trauma
I think there’s an idea in the world of recovery from any sort of trauma – narcissistic abuse included – that it requires revisiting the…
Raised by a Borderline Parent? What you need to know
Did you tend to feel any of these ways with a parent or a partner? Never sure what to expect from them? In certain moments…
Healing from narcissistic abuse by ‘showing off’
I remember that my favorite school days in elementary school were when we got to do ‘show and tell’. These were days where the teacher…
Feeling unreal after narcissistic abuse
One of the grave impacts of being scapegoated by a narcissistic parent is the sense that at your core you are not real. Survivors often…
Surviving A Parent’s Narcissistic Rage: The Value of the Freeze & Submit Responses
This post considers the take-no-prisoners quality of narcissistic rage. A narcissist’s rage can feel – and sometimes be – life-threatening to its recipient. First, narcissistic…
Surviving Narcissistic Abuse in Childhood: Leaving One’s Self
A very wise client – Mario* – identified his goal in therapy in our first session to “not care so much what other people think”.…
Why adult children of narcissists can be so money and not even know it
I have a very smart and wonderful client, Karen*, who recently said: “I feel like you are always telling me that I’m right and everyone…