Narcissistic abuse means always having to say you’re sorry
If saying you’re sorry – and rarely hearing it – feels like an all too common part of your experience, then you may have had…
Category: Attachment
Healing from narcissistic abuse by ‘showing off’
I remember that my favorite school days in elementary school were when we got to do ‘show and tell’. These were days where the teacher…
Feeling unreal after narcissistic abuse
One of the grave impacts of being scapegoated by a narcissistic parent is the sense that at your core you are not real. Survivors often…
Why adult children of narcissists can be so money and not even know it
I have a very smart and wonderful client, Karen*, who recently said: “I feel like you are always telling me that I’m right and everyone…
‘Good Will Hunting’ through the lens of Control-Mastery Theory
Good Will Hunting is one of my favorite movies. Will’s character is so compelling. By day he hangs out with his hard-living friends. By night…
Kids taking care of parents: Why The Godfather and Dave Chappelle say parentification is bad
Don Vito Corleone in the Godfather was not a paragon of gender equality. Witness his famous statement: “I spend my life trying not to be…
How early relationships can define reality – for better or worse
“In the end the Party would announce that two and two made five, and you would have to believe it.” – George Orwell 1984 I…
Fear of anger: Getting mad can be vulnerable
What does anger look like to you? Fists pounding a table? Faces getting red? Veins bulging? Raised Voices? These are some of the common…
So you had a bad childhood…
To know whether you experienced a bad childhood, take this short assessment. The majority of adults in the United States had parents who were…
Therapy for habitual self-sacrifice
by Jay Reid This blog post is the second in a series about how some people must sacrifice some part of themselves in order to…