Chronic Shame

Shame and Social Anxiety

Social anxiety reflects the belief that other people are not safe.  We can learn that others are unsafe from receiving a rejecting or indifferent response at the very moment we need someone’s caring interest and recognition. In the wake of such lack of attunement to our inner worlds, the insidious feeling of shame can flood our systems. Shame feels like …

relational trauma

Don’t Minimize Your Trauma

As an undergraduate, I took a course on African-American Psychology and my professor, Howard C. Stevenson always ended each class with a touching aphorism.  The one that remains with me to this day is “Don’t minimize your trauma”.  This phrase is especially relevant for racial minorities in a society that privileges whiteness while simultaneously denying the existence of that privileged status.  …