“Yeah but…” How the Scapegoat Survivor Discounts Their Strengths
Do you add caveats to your strengths or accomplishments? Does it seem like you are not as mature, developed or confident as others? Have you…
Evacuating the Seat of Your Self: A Necessary Move for the Scapegoat Survivor
In most families, parents protect and respect their children. This protection and respect does not falter when the child needs something. Nor when the child…
Feeling Uninteresting to Oneself as the Scapegoat
Do you experience your ideas to be less captivating than others’ ideas? When you are alone, can you feel flat or lifeless? Do you find…
The Science Behind Gaining Distance From the Narcissistic Abuser
In every blog, I talk about the 3 Pillars of Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse. Today I want to dig into why the second pillar is…
3 Ways the Narcissistic Parent Blocks the Scapegoat Child’s Growth
As a child, did you feel… …like everything you did was wrong? …like there was an aching hole inside that never seemed to fill up?…
The Scapegoat Child’s Role & Symptoms in Narcissistic Abuse
If you grew up with a narcissistic parent and felt devalued most of the time then you were that parent’s scapegoat. The scapegoat is someone…
Take off the Scapegoat Nametag at the Narcissistic Family’s Conference
I recently thought about the metaphor of a business conference for what happens when a narcissistic family puts a child in the role of scapegoat.…
Heal From Narcissistic Abuse by Taking Others’ Support for Granted
Did you work extremely hard to make your narcissistic partner or parent happy yet always seem to be falling behind? Was it especially dangerous to…
Dealing With Regret for Scapegoat Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse
In the comments from an earlier Youtube Video, someone posted this: Jay, could you do a video about REGRET?? Not living to full potential [in…
When Scapegoats Escape Inward To Survive Narcissistic Abuse
You may have heard the saying that when you point a finger at someone else there are always three fingers pointing back at you. There’s…