“I must convince the world to like me” – Moving Towards People
Do you feel fundamentally unlikeable unless you are doing something for others? Perhaps you counteract this feeling by acting in ways that generate positive responses…
Understanding “self-destructive” behavior from within
It can be head-scratching when someone is being harmed but does not flee to safety or otherwise protect themselves. We often assume that everyone wants…
So you had a bad childhood…
To know whether you experienced a bad childhood, take this short assessment. The majority of adults in the United States had parents who were…
Difficulty Concentrating in Depression: ‘Trying easier’ can help
by Jay Reid A difficult but under appreciated aspect of depression is how it disrupts concentration. Being depressed means feeling down or flat most days.…
Why being a “people pleaser” means you are a survivor
by Jay Reid Case illustration: John* was a successful 28-year-old software engineer. He explained that he lives his life through the eyes of others instead of…
The illusion of control in addiction
by Jay Reid Drugs and alcohol can be fun to consume. If they weren’t, then a lot less people would find themselves struggling with addiction. …
Therapy for habitual self-sacrifice
by Jay Reid This blog post is the second in a series about how some people must sacrifice some part of themselves in order to…
The emotional hazards of being “too nice”
by Jay Reid This blog post is the first in a series dedicated to having to give up what you really think or feel in…
The Pain of Panic Attacks…and How to Overcome Them
One of the scariest experiences in life can be a panic attack. Anxiety is no fun but at least there’s a sense that something might…
Depression and Sleep: They make strange bedfellows
by Jay Reid Depression and sleep are often at odds with each other. Going to sleep requires coming to a state of rest. Depression often…